Category: Intimacy

Therapists and members of the trans and non-binary community provide insight on how to decentre cisness during sex.  WORDS BY KATIE BASKERVILLE HEADER VIA UNSPLASH Whether you’re cis, trans, non-conforming or fluid, we all have a lot of heteronormative, cis-centric bullshit to unpack: especially in the bedroom.  Part of anyone’s journey into queerness is unlearning the sexual shame and binary thinking that categorises so much of the dominant sexual script. From understanding that femmes can strap, to celebrating bottoming, sex can be liberatory and help us delve deeper into our identities.…

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In her column DYKE DRAMA, GT’s own ‘sapphic Carrie Bradshaw’ explores a new, very online era of lesbian visibility.  WORDS ANYA SCHULMAN IMAGE ‘A REFLECTION’ BY ALBERY HENTRY COLLINGS (1919) Lesbian Visibility Week may have been and gone, but everyone’s favorite lesbians seem to be…married? Kristen Stewart and Dylan Meyer, Gabby Windey and Robby Hoffman, and Tanner Fletcher’s  Bridal Fashion Week show this month had no shortage of real queer couples.  After all, the easiest way to be visibly gay is with a partner. As a femme-presenting lesbian, as soon…

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Ruby Rare speaks to GAY TIMES to celebrate the release of The Non-Monogamy Playbook, a modern guide to navigating the world of non-monogamy. Sometimes it can feel like there isn’t a single queer person who hasn’t tried non-monogamy at some point – but of course, as a polyamorous person myself, this is what I would say. While folks are certainly more aware of non-monogamy than ever before, and a thriving online community has cropped up of polyamory influencers creating educational content, it can sometimes be hard to know exactly how…

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In her column DYKE DRAMA, GT’s own ‘sapphic Carrie Bradshaw’ explores what it really takes to find love when you least expect it.  WORDS ANYA SCHULMAN When I started writing this column a year ago, I’d never told anyone I loved them. Which was fine for editorial purposes, because this is a sex and dating column. I wanted love from people who kept me at arm’s length. I thought if love was hard won, it would last. That if love was universally acknowledged as rare because it was coming from someone…

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