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Trans Day of Remembrance: looking ahead to a future of trans liberation

Transgender Day of Remembrance is not just a day to mourn, it is also to celebrate trans lives, trans histories, trans courage, trans strength, and look ahead to a future of trans liberation. 

I purse my lips too vigorously and a fudgy layer of lippy smears onto my front teeth. A few tissues later and I gaze into the mirror for the final time before leaving the safety of my room. My face is stunning, a 50’s damsel-in-distress with pointy cat-eyes and Elizabeth Taylor lashes. They’re ready.

I make the 100-meter walk from my door to the Stepney Green underground station donned in a pleather bustier, pleated to cup my chest. Tight-to-the-skin trousers slurp as I move. Boots with a 3-inch platform take me to over 2 metres tall, apparently somewhat of a spectacle.

Stares upon stares are directed at me, a teenager discreetly Snapchats a video, a group of men laugh and groan “what the fuck is that”. My headphones blast Lizzo’s ‘Truth Hurts,’ only partially shielding barbed words. 

This walk shouldn’t be a radical act. But until we address the scourge that underlies transphobic violence—100 meters in a trans body means a whole lot more.

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November 20th is Trans Day of Remembrance, a tradition started in 1999 by and for the trans community after the murder of African-American transwoman Rita Hester. 20 years after the first time we collectively memorialised victims of transphobic violence, we’re still lighting too many candles and reading lists of fallen trans people, the pages shaking like leaves in our hands. 

As I prepare to read a speech at a Trans Day of Remembrance vigil this week in London, I can’t help but anxiously fuss over what I’ll wear. Not only because looking like a boss b*tch is my prerogative (free Britney!) but honestly, I’m frightened. 

As a mixed-race transgender non-binary person, I face a dangerous reality every time I leave the house. In the last few months alone I’ve had death threats on the street and on social media, been filmed on phones by strangers without consent, and experienced countless drive-by coward calls. 

After speaking at London’s first Trans+ Pride parade, I was assaulted on the underground. As I was berated with ‘batty boy’ and my phone was smashed by a group of small-minded and ham-fisted boys, a white man sat and watched, simply staring at the carriage walls, praying for forgiveness. 

I acknowledge my forms of privilege including being able to afford a car to and from venues and the option to resemble a cis man instead of a boss b*tch if need be. But making the daily decision between living in safety or living as my authentic self saps the energy from the deepest parts of me. 

The ways trans people are affected by systemic transphobia varies across the globe but is nonetheless devastating in every case. Trans people are murdered at shocking rates when compared to their contemporaries. There have reportedly been 331 trans people killed in the past year, 331 too many. 

Hate crimes against trans and non-binary people are on the rise, and we face a political climate where trans issues are discussed as if trans people are becoming an issue instead of at the mercy of a world where they are told they are not supposed to exist. 

Violence is not the only way trans people are let down by the systems, structures, and institutions around them. We also must be aware of difficulty accessing necessary health services, negative mental health outcomes, a lack of rights such as the ability to legally identify as their gender on passports, unconscious bias in the workplace, and the intersections of race within each of these manifestations of transphobia.

At every opportunity, we must remember that people of colour, particularly black trans women, are disproportionately negatively affected by each of these forms of oppression. 

Trans Day of Remembrance is the culmination of Trans Awareness Week, created to make the world cognizant of issues afflicting trans people. The world is seeing an unprecedented amount of media related to trans people. All press is good press, except… when it’s the opposite. The way trans people have been referred to in the media in the past year has been willfully ignorant at best and inhumane at worst.

One could conceivably read some of these articles and wonder if trans people are a dangerous alien species instead of the boss b*tches we are. It appears that trans rights are human rights only if we’re being trans somewhere quietly… not smashing world records, appearing on ground-breaking television series, or fronting magazines

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Aaron Philip doesn’t want to be known as the disabled, black, trans model. She’s a model, period. “Being trans and disabled… I don’t want to claim it because I ​have ​to claim it. I claim it because it is me, objectively,” she says. “Why should that make me an entirely different entity of model, when I’m just Aaron Philip?”⁣⁣⁣⁣⁠ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁠ Earlier this year, the 18-year-old made her runway debut at Willie Norris’ fashion show with the words ‘Queer Capital’ on the back of her wheelchair; since then, she’s landed her own campaign with Sephora and has a genuine fan in – and we’re going to capitalise this – NAOMI CAMPBELL. She’s also become a beacon of light for those in minority communities who want to follow in her footsteps and ‘feel their fish’. “I love the fact that people who are just like me can relate to me and feel represented,” she continues. “That’s what I want, I want people to look at me and feel like they have someone who is advocating for them.”⁣⁣⁣⁣⁠ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁠ We asked Aaron’s close friend, actress and singer-songwriter Amandla Stenberg to interview the star about representing the black, trans and disabled communities, and how the fashion industry is slowly catching up with diverse representation.⁣⁣⁠ ⁣⁣⁠ GAYTIMES 500 • AARON PHILIP⁣⁠ Photography: @ryanpfluger⁣⁣⁠ In conversation with @amandlasponsored⁣⁣⁠ Fashion: @willyumbeck + @babyboynat⁣⁣⁠ Wears: @gucci Hair: @nathanjuergensen ⁣⁣⁠ Makeup: @remi.mua⁣⁣⁠ Assistant: @chantar⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ AVAILABLE WORLDWIDE.⁣⁠ Subscribe now via our bio link!

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The world is becoming aware of us. But when does awareness become safety? Often the most read articles on Facebook are those from right-wing media outlets delegitimising trans identity. And let me tell you, after I was sucked into the sinkhole once or thrice, don’t read the comments if you’re trans. 

Growing up, my father would come into my room yelling the latest sensationalist headlines he had read that day. “Radam! Eat your veggies, otherwise… bird flu.” The comment section is filled with my father-types, and it’s irresponsible to recklessly report about hyper-vulnerable minorities to an impressionable public. 

Media outlets that share transphobic propaganda must consider the direct links between the words spattered on their pages and the transphobic violence we face daily. These articles provide transphobia with a chance to manifest in water-cooler conversations, creep into our education system, and gives credence to bigoted minds and the power to spit at trans feet. 

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“The intersection of my marginalised identities allow first-hand insight on systematic corruption and the cycles of this and the uniting affinity those share within a community,” Chella Man tells friend, Pose actor and activist, Indya Moore during this interview. Breaking out of the mould, actor and activist Chella Man is a much- needed new voice for the trans experience that’s finding him mixing with the big players, including his historic appearance in DC Universe’s Titans. But perhaps what’s more important, he’s visible and can be seen by others similar to their lived experience – and it’s a responsibility that’s of vital importance to Chella Man.⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣ “Through these experiences, I have felt a surge of empathy leading to the determination of establishing new infrastructure for our world to operate on, promoting inclusivity and equity,” he explains to Indya, adding that it was a complete lack of visibility and internalised oppression that prevented his own personal progression during his younger years.⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣ “After eighteen years of internalised struggles with my gender/disability/ race due to harmful societal constructs, I now feel comfortable and cemented with my identity. Having reached this newfound certainty, I felt eager to experiment and push the boundaries of my identity further. But this time, on my own terms.”⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣ In Issue 500, Chella Man speaks to friend Indya Moore about why we need to have greater conversations around queer mental health, the beauty and power of the intersections of his identities, and how we can all be better allies and support trans people as their battle for true equality continues.⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ GAY TIMES 500 • CHELLA MAN⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ Photography: @ryanpfluger⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ In conversation with @indyamoore⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ Fashion: @willyumbeck + @babyboynat⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ Wears: @morsedecode + @stellamccartney Grooming: @nathanjuergensen ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ Assistant: @chantar⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ AVAILABLE WORLDWIDE.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ Subscribe now via our bio link!

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Unfortunately, transphobia doesn’t exist only within “heterosexual culture”. It’s been two years since I came out as non-binary and I expected to be welcomed into the LGBTQ community with open arms. However, I was frustrated to find that the bigoted attitudes particularly in relation to the intersections of race and gender were just as deep-rooted here. 

In the United Kingdom, the LGB Alliance has recently formed, with one clear goal: organizing to remove the T from the acronym. To have a group of people hellbent on erasing your experience is terrifying, to say the least. 

I have found dating in the LGBTQ community to be rife with transphobia. Cis men on dating apps will ignore, filter, and block anyone who does not display gender in homonormative ways (“masc4masc culture“ is as popular as ever). Since Grindr has introduced the ability to list your pronoun and gender identity, I’ve experienced messages such as “You are a man. Stop kidding yourself”. Many will use the pronouns feature as a joke, not recognising how crucial the ability to choose how you are referred to is to trans and non-binary identity.

Gay media (no offence, thanks for hiring me GAY TIMES!) can do better, too. In a post Drag Race world, many publications prioritises paying, uplifting, and highlighting cis male white homosexuals and stay silent on the transmisogyny coded into the language used by these people and programs. 

When high-profile celebrities come out as trans or non-binary, the LGBTQ community shows support. Otherwise, it seems they wait until a tragedy occurs or the date is right to care. 20,000 people rallied for a now-successful marriage equality campaign in Northern Ireland. Where is this same energy and outrage for the 331 gorgeous souls taken from us this year due to trans violence?

Trans has been weaponised as a term, outrageously linked to disease, paedophilia, bestiality, and aggression but rarely beauty. Transgender Day of Remembrance is not just a day to mourn, it is also to celebrate trans lives, trans histories, trans courage, trans strength, and look ahead to a future of trans liberation. 

The rise in data available to contextualise transphobic violence is crucial but is not everything. Trans people are not just statistics, we are existing. When we remember the people that have come before us, we must not forget that we are here now. 

I implore you to act in the name of what those who have fallen stood for: the chance to feel the warm glow of love and to give love freely, control over our bodies and comfort within them, respect for our culture, spaces to be accepted and equal opportunity to thrive in these environments.

As we discover ourselves and begin to appreciate every little bit of what we find – the more the world tells us to stay in line. I was eight when I knew I didn’t fit into the traditional narratives of gender dictated by the thing in my pants, but also already sensitive to the ways in which we are told again and again that we aren’t born correct.

It took 16 years to allow myself the space to explore the idea that I could be beautiful, to understand that the yearning feeling in my gut when I saw myself in the mirror was legitimate. We are not simply a disparate list of things, of ingredients, of characteristics that can be summated on paper. Trans people are made of multitudes, inside and out. No one of us is the same, but we are stronger together. 

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♥ i keep parts of myself private from my family because it can be difficult facing the constant questioning of my existence from people that i care about. it sucks energy from the depths of me to have to explain why i am me. ⁣ ⁣ this was recently thrust upon me as my sister was shown my profile on @i_weigh and shared this with the entire family without asking. it’s been great to experience this exposure especially to broadcast issues affecting non-binary people. but having these difficult conversations about my gender identity with family members was not something i had expected. ⁣ ⁣ a positive came out of this, though. my mum video-called me today to ask me if i preferred ‘handsome’ or ‘beautiful’ now. ⁣ ⁣ i replied “whichever as long as it refers to the person i am now in this moment and not the version of me you want me to be or one that’s in your head”⁣ ⁣ she said “well i just wanted to say you look gorgeous right now”⁣ ⁣ you are in no obligation to be open and honest with people you are afraid will take away your shine. but we do know the extreme power in the moment when someone you love opens up to you about their fights, their fears, and their vision for their future. ⁣ ⁣ sometimes people surprise you. sometimes having those proper difficult conversations in relationships where there is mutual love and respect can move us along. ⁣ ⁣ {photo from my performance of ‘dirty’ at taken by @yiyannyang} x

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I myself was ignorant of the ways trans people were being oppressed before it began to affect me personally. We must all do better. For trans people to thrive in their worlds, we need to really believe that trans rights are human rights. We forget that human rights don’t just include laws, but a human right is to be treated with love and respect. Human rights have failed us on all accounts.

Supporting trans people in 2019 can come from an array of sources:

  • Challenging transphobia in the domains where you feel safe, whether that be in the workplace, online, or in your relationships
  • Protecting trans people if you see them being bullied in public spaces
  • Giving money to trans people through trans charities or donating to individual GoFundMe’s
  • Hiring trans people, supporting, and sharing the work of trans artists and activists
  • Asking your employers to develop zero-tolerance policies on transphobic discrimination and pushing for gender-neutral toilets at work
  • Talking to your MP about your support for trans people and asking them to commit resources to effectively address trans homelessness

The list of trans people we read on this day should not exist and we need your help to make that happen. It should not be for those under the thumb to bend the hand that strangles them. 

November 20th is an innocuous day for many, but for the transgender community it is a solemn coming together to remember our slain kinfolk. It is incredible that trans people have created a week to exchange tools, information, resources, love and support to help us survive.


Today and every day, I am standing not on the shoulders of self-proclaimed cis male heterosexual giants, but on the backs of trans spirits, of trans ancestors, of trans legends, of trans brothers, lovers, sisters, sons, daughters and non-binary individuals. 

Not just the ones that are heard about on the news, not just the ones that become models or musicians or doctors, not just the ones that become statistics, and not just the ones who have the extreme privilege like me to have my words read today. Every single person who has felt that longing to express their gender in a way other than how society has told them they can be. 

Today and every day, be aware of our existence, the fact that we’ve always been here despite myriad forms of erasure. When I speak later, I am going to wear the brightest, most voluptuous boss b*itch skirt in my closet and complete another radical act in the hopes that one day this won’t be so radical.

Words: Radam Ridwan
Illustration: Gabriella Grimes

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